Through a combination of live and recorded lessons, this 6 week online foundation course offers lectures, practical tools and embodied learning to help you reclaim your parent power, nurture your child’s self-worth and break the intergenerational cycle of shame.

Kick Shame To The Kerb

Shame may be pervasive, but it likes to stay hidden and acts out in disguise, so we don’t always know it’s shame we are dealing with. Where does it come from? What does it look like? Is there such thing as healthy shame? How can you reduce shame triggers, resist taking on the shame that isn’t yours, and avoid passing it on to others? And how can you teach a child with a traumatic shame-based history who resists your attempts to empathise, connect and praise? This course will show you how.

From Shame to Self-Worth

Shame is not all bad; it has good intentions. But misused, stuck and unprocessed shame diminishes our confidence and self worth and drives us to act in ways that violate our values. When we slide into its pit of helplessness and isolation, we struggle to repair relationships, reach for what we care about, or receive support. We never feel like a good enough parent, no matter how hard we try and how much w.e love The good news is, when we become shame-smart, we can reclaim our power, worth and aliveness. We can guide our children whilst staying in connection and building trust and resilience, without resorting to distorting the natural shame response. But if want to change our shame stories, we have to first change our shame state. So this course not only teaches you all about the good, the bad, the ugly of shame, but you will also learn body-centred exercises that are the real key to transformation.

FAQ

  • Who Is The Course For?

    parents, people who have parents, educators, social workers, therapists, counsellors, somatic/embodiment coaches and practitioners it is especially suited to carers of children with developmental shame/trauma histories

  • How does it work?

    6 weeks of online learning, 6 pre-recorded learning modules delivered in easy to digest lessons, 6 LIVE 90 minute weekly video classes and Embodied exercises to put your learning into practice. You have life-time access to the materials

  • What is the schedule?

    Every Friday, a new module will be posted on the course platform. Each module consists of several easy to digest, pre-recorded lessons and experiential practices, so you can view them in your own time, as often as you like. On the Sunday of the following week (so you have 9 days to digest the material) there will be a 90 minute LIVE review, practice and q and a session via zoom (you are encouraged to attend, but if it’s not possible, this will be recorded and posted up on the course platform).

  • What is the time investment?

    The recorded and live sessions will take approximately 3 hours a week in total, and you are encouraged to incorporate the experiential exercises into your everyday parenting throughout the week. The material for each module will be summarised in the live session. Because all the course materials are available as recordings for a lifetime, you can refer back to them as often as you like and learn at your own pace.

  • What support is available?

    There will be opportunities to ask questions in the course platform and during the live session. Whilst one to one support is not included within the course, participants may receive coaching with Kirstie at a specially reduced rate. The extent of your participation and sharing of material is entirely at your discretion. Conversations and exercises will inevitably elicit some emotions, feelings and sensations, and you will be guided to how to be present to them safely, with curiosity and care, but this is not therapy or counselling and participation assumes you have a degree of resiliency on board. If you are in doubt about whether the course is suitable for you, please contact me.

Course Curriculum Coming Soon

  • 1

    Course Introduction : Start Here

    • Start Here : Welcome

    • About Kirstie

  • 2

    Unit 1 Why Learn About Shame?

    • Video Presentation : Why Learn About Shame

    • Why Learn About Shame ? Manual (text of presentation)

    • Keynote pdf Why Study Shame?
  • 3

    Unit 2 Orientation to Learning

    • Orientation to Learning Introduction

    • Practice 1 Follow Your Impulses

    • Practice 2 Tolerating Not Knowing

    • Practice 3 Invite Curiosity to Triggers
  • 4

    Unit 3 Origins of Shame

    • Origins of Shame - cheat sheet bullet points

    • Origins of Shame Manual (short version)

    • Empathic Limit Setting Example

    • Question: Pride, Dignity and Shame

    • Pride, Dignity and Shame accompanying reflection
  • 5

    Unit 4 Foundational Practice : Centring in the 4 domains

    • 4 domain Centring - foundation practice

  • 6

    Unit 5 Centring In Support

    • Part 1 : Centring In Support Introduction Presentation

    • Part 2 : Centring in Support Practice 1 : Explore Your Relationship to Support

    • Part 3 : Centring in Support Practice 2 Organ Support

    • Part 4 : Centring in Support Practice 3 Power Posse (Protective Allies)

    • Part 5 : Centring In Support Practice 4 Dual Awareness

    • Part 6 : Centring in Support Practice 5 Building Community of Supporters

    • Part 7 : Centring In Support Bringing it together - Concluding Practices Video

    • Part 8 : 3 CASE STUDIES Centring in Support
  • 7

    Module 2 : Counter-Shaming Practices : Centring in Compassion

    • Counter-Shaming Practices Intro and Summary
  • 8

    Unit 6 : Inclusivity, Appreciation, Curiosity

    • Parenting with Inclusivity

    • Parenting with Curiosity

    • Parenting With Appreciation

  • 9

    Unit 7 : Centring In Compassion Kind Eyes and Scarf Practice

    • Self-compassion hacks - scarf practice

    • Kind Eyes Audio and transcript
  • 10

    Module 3 Shame Resiliency Practices : Centring in Dignity

    • Shame Resiliency Practices Introduction

    • Practice 1 Introduction : Reshaping Your Future

    • Reshaping Your Future Practice 1 Workbook: Your True North Star (Declaration)

    • Notes on Learning, Practice and Change

    • State Awareness Mapping and Action Plan

    • Embodiment Practice : Centering in Dignity

    • Reclaiming Healthy Individuation and Centered Accountability

    • SCRIPTS FOR RELEASING UNCONSCIOUS COMMITTMENTS

    • Proprioceptive power notes